We need to pay attention
Fifteen months: What’s 15 months in the life of a child?
It depends on the child’s age, of course. Fifteen months ago, my 6-year-old was barely scratching her name in crayon and learning to push herself on the swing. Now she’s writing in sentences and short paragraphs, beginning to read chapter books, and scrambling to the top of the spindly holly tree in front of our house.
The changes are even more pronounced in my 3-and-a-half-year-old. After all, 15 months is almost a third of her life. She was not much more than a baby back then; now, she’s a little girl who likes to sing songs and tell stories and imagine she’s any number of baby animals. (Currently incarnation: a baby fish.)
I mention this because 15 months is the length to which many military deployments have been extended because of the ongoing wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. (The previous maximum was usually 12 months.) It doesn’t matter if you’re a mother, or a father, or if this is your third deployment, or if you never got home to see your son or daughter being born. If you are in the military and you are called up, you will be required to make a sacrifice that many of us civilians can only imagine.
I’ve been assigned a story on schools and military children for May’s ASBJ and have been calling public schools in and around Fort Bragg, N.C., and Camp Pendleton, Calif. It’s not a task I particularly relish -- and not because I’m uninterested. It’s just that I find it hard to leave my kids for a six-day conference (though, to be sure, it’s nice to get a break); I can’t fathom an absence of a year or more, or the possibility that such an absence could, in an instant, become permanent.
For most of us, the wars are happening somewhere else, far from our lives. We’d rather think about the Super Bowl, or American Idol, or which actors might take home a coveted Oscar Sunday night.
It shouldn’t be this way, of course. We should follow the wars closely, watch them on TV, read about them in newspapers and magazines, discuss them among ourselves, and become better informed citizens regardless of our political party or how we feel about the conflicts.
Every day, tens of thousands of military families -- husbands, wives, and children -- are making an enormous sacrifice. We need to pay attention.
Lawrence Hardy, Senior Editor
